Do me a favor. Stand up. Go ahead, do it. Stand up. Now take a good look around you. Look to your left, look to your right, look behind you and in front of you. Look up and look down at your feet. Don’t be shy. It’s okay if you look weird doing it. Unless you are in the car and that’s different. This moment is for you and no one else. No rush, I’ll wait….
Do you realize, that in that moment, it was physically impossible for anyone to stand exactly where you were standing as long as you were standing there? They can stand beside you, in front of you, and even behind you. But not in the same, exact place. That was your space to occupy and no one else’s.
The only way they can stand in your space is if you decide to move out of it. For someone else to take it. But that would be your choice backed up by your action in movement.
In today’s social and media driven society it can be challenging to think that only you can do what you do. That anyone can stand in your space. That there are so many others occupying the space that you are in or desire to be in. Well that’s not true.
You, woman, are uniquely and creatively made.
I mean that in every way and form. Spiritually, Physically and Mentally. Even the DNA of identical twins varies. From sunlight to the food we choose to consume there is an uniqueness to each one of us.
So, the question becomes are you owning your space? Because no one can own it like you. No one can lead in your space like you can lead. No one can possess the same perspective of the space as you. Others may have similar experiences but that doesn’t equate to identical perspectives.
No matter what others think, no matter how it looks to others it doesn’t matter. It is your space to own. Here are 3 simple ways you can develop yourself to be the woman who owns her space with confidence.
Believe. The simplest but most overlooked concept. You must believe that it is your space to own. This is not a one-time event that happens. This is something even I remind myself of daily. No one can believe for you. With every phase in my life that comfortability is conquered a new level of uncomfortability begins and the need for me to believe that it is my space to own is intensified. When I made the decision to become a full-time entrepreneur I realized that I had become so comfortable working behind the scenes supporting and doing for others that I was extremely uncomfortable being “out front” supporting and doing for myself. Out front where I was the face for my business and I was the one being seen. What if I am not good as I thought I was? What if I disappoint those around me? What if? What if? What if? These questions of doubt started to affect how I saw myself in MY space. Then I had to stop and say, SO WHAT! This is my space to define, learn, live and own; not just saying it but truly believing that...because it is MY space. Write down affirmations, say them out loud daily, tell those close to you what you believe so they can believe with you and remind you in those moments of strong doubt.
Allow your perspective to empower others. At times, we can allow fear to deter us from sharing our perspective with others. The fear that originates from thoughts like “what I have to say won’t help”, “I could be harshly judged and they will not see me the same” or “I haven’t “lived” long enough to be of any help.” Guess what? None of that matters and pales in comparison to how what you say could positively impact and empower the lives of others. Remember, no one travels in the same lane as you so be confident in what you have to offer. Sharing your perspective and outlook can provide strength and fuel to others and affirm for them that they are not alone and that they can do it. So, have no fear in sharing your perspective because it could be the difference maker in someone going forward, taking that chance and living their dreams or remaining stagnant or not trying at all.
Move. It can be overwhelming to think about all the things you must do, to own your space. Sometimes it can be so intense to think about all that should be done that it can paralyze you. Don’t let it. Don’t know where to start? Pick a spot to start and go for it! You will be amazed at how deciding to move forward and own your space yields insight, encouragement and motivation that fuels you to keep going. If you never move and explore, you will never know just how large and amazing your space truly is.
So I empower you, identify and own your space. The world is waiting for you.
Sadie Domineck, Co-Founder of 317 Brand Architects a brand building agency headquartered in Atlanta. Partnering to build life-long brands from inception.